And I talked about how dating has become a lost art? Like just a simple "let's grab a cup of coffee and get to know each other a little better" date. Where a guy isn't afraid to cross the "friend threshold" to see what could happen. Where a guy just asks a girl out with plain old words and not some elaborate Pinterest scheme that involves costumes and balloons and dancing ponies.
And remember when I was told that same post was so "ridiculously sexist"?
Good times. Good times.
Well, when a friend shared an article on dating with me, I just had to share it with you.
For one thing, it's written by a man, addressing some of the very same things I talked about in my original post. So maybe he says it better than I do. Or maybe it just sounds better coming from a man.
But if you have older high school or college-age kids, I think it's worth a read. And a conversation with said kids.
Because it's not a marriage proposal. Or even a serious commitment.
It's just a date.
So click here to read "Why Don't the Guys in my Church ask the Women on Dates?".
And even if you think I'm still being ridiculously sexist, I'd still love to hear your thoughts.
It would be interesting to see the Big Girls' view on this. Guest post?
ReplyDeleteThis is a good idea! Hmmmm.... I'll see what I can do.
DeleteIn my simple mind it is about one thing. Rejection. I have noticed that young people these days do not put themselves out there. I have a daughter and two nephews that are in that dating world now. They don't ask people out. It is more of a group meeting then they move on later to a date after they have safely been in the group setting for a period of time. People don't like to hear the word NO. It's also about respect. I was raised that as the male it was my responsibility to do the asking, the paying, the door opening, etc. That was not sexist. It was called being a gentleman. Think about our parents generation where you had to ask the father to date the daughter. Where would we be in that generation now? We might not be able to repopulate the earth. lol. I really believe times have changed so much in this area and not necessarily for the better. The fear of No is a big issue in all of society today. Sounds like a good sermon. I better stop.
ReplyDeleteA sermon on the fear of rejection - another good idea! And I just happen to know a pastor I could pass the idea along to.... :)
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